Never Lead Alone

Leadership requires strength, wisdom, courage, humility, and so much more.  Leading a church amplifies what’s at stake.  This isn’t an area where we can “wing it” and it’s scary when you feel like you’re making it up as you go along.

Leadership can become very lonely as well.  You don’t know whom you can trust and many people can’t truly relate to the challenges you’re facing.

Isolation is extremely dangerous

1 Peter 5:8 states that we must “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.”  When we isolate ourselves, we are more vulnerable to attack.  This is when we see leaders involved in scandals; or we see their ministries and families suffer.

Covenant relationships protect and propel us

Proverbs 18:24 – “A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”  I am blessed to have friends who love me – quirks and all.  They believe in and encourage me.  They also push or confront me when needed.  I value their insights and trust their judgments. They make me better and I seek to do the same for them.

Finding these relationships requires focused effort

Don’t expect strong, trusted friendships to just happen.  Seek them out.  Ask God to bring your paths together.  Be the kind of friend you want others to be for you.

Great friends help you be a better spouse, friend, or parent.  They help you achieve your vision and push you to pursue the life God created you to live.  They empathize with you when you’re in the valley and celebrate with you when you reach the peak.  They forgive when you mess up.  They call you out before you make a bad decision.

Please don’t ever try to lead alone.  Yes, you may be at the top of the organizational chart.  However, you need a few trusted friends who will help you become and continue to be an effective leader.  It’s worth the time, energy, and risk to let someone into your life who can support and push you.  If you already have this type of friend, take a moment to thank them today.  If not, ask God to open your eyes to the possibilities and show you who you should get to know.  So get to it and don’t ever try to lead alone.

How do you cultivate strong friendships?